The brain has no filter and can\u2019t sort through noise such as \u201cnow she\u2019s having crazy thoughts again, thinking she can\u2019t do anything. I\u2019ll prove her wrong\u201d.<\/em> No quite the opposite the brain registers everything we say and think, places it in a compartment that over time is filled with negative thoughts and pessimism until the compartment finally reaches its limit, it cracks and we fail. You tell yourself \u201cTold you so\u201d<\/em> without realising that you led yourself down that path by feeding your most important muscle with negative thoughts. Like a destructive internal brain wash by and against yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The brain is a muscle that can be exercised, pumped with the right nutrition which makes the rest of the body work optionally. Nutrition in the form of positive thoughts, compassion for oneself, pep and a belief that it can be done. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As far as humanly possible I live as I preach but like everyone else, I have days when I\u2019m ready to give up. I also want to lie on the sofa in an old dressing gown, woolly socks and eat a bag of sweets while crying my heart out to meaningless series on tv because it\u2019s just so damn hard being me. We ALL have those days. PT\u2019s nutritionists, coaches, phycologists, stars in Hollywood, EVERYONE. But my attitude is this: if I want to and decide to, have the goal clear in my mind, then I can do it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n A few years back as I trained to be a cognitive behavioural coach one of the first tasks was to write a future contract with yourself with goals to attain within a certain timeframe. This is such a good exercise, that starts with a large piece of paper where you draw up two columns. You title the first column \u201cpresent\u201d and underneath it you list everything that\u2019s good in your life and what you would like to alter. At the bottom of that side write what you need to do to make this change. The second column you title \u201cIn x years\u201d <\/em>and the life scenario you wish for at that point underneath it. Pimp your paper with your favourite colours, stickers, cut outs from magazines or photographs. Make the contract appealing and significant to YOU. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It might sound like hocus pocus but all the points on my future contract are fulfilled. Such as starting my own business, move from the countryside to the city and buy the \u201cdream house\u201d. Consider that in this time frame I had separated but then found my way back to my husband, so the idea of a dream house felt very distant. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I resigned from my stable job for the council and started my own business without a safety net to fall back on, I was in a small apartment with three children as a single mum. Dream scenario? Hardly! But the conditions have nothing to do with it. It\u2019s all about attitude, purpose, stamina and working with the power of your mind EVERY day. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Not \u201cIF I lose 2 stones I will\u2026.\u201d<\/em> -but WHEN. Don\u2019t wait for everything you want IF you reach your goals like some sort of punishment tactic. Instead take that salsa class or buy that little black dress NOW, today. You should live as if you\u2019re already there. Two stone lighter and a hottie on the dancefloor with all eyes on YOU as you sweep across the floor in your little black number. Feel your feet touch the floor, hear the music and the laughter from your dance partner and others in the room, enjoy the scent of your far too expensive perfume. Experience with all your senses!<\/p>\n\n\n\n So how about that cupboard? It\u2019s standing where it was intended in my dream house built in 1920. The house I moved into a while back, in my mind and with my senses, bought furniture for and decorated but only physically moved to about a week ago. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Not IF but WHEN \u2013 in your mind you can go anywhere you want to go, be whomever you choose to be, and your brain won\u2019t know the difference so start now.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I bought that cupboard (in the photo) destined for my dream house while I was still living in a modern flat with no thoughts at all about moving. I saw…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":14991,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"editor_notices":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[102],"tags":[271],"class_list":["post-14990","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-motivation","tag-cognitive-therapy"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mammafit-1239.appspot.com\/20170830_184046-225x300.jpg\")
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